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How to Secretly Find the Engagement Ring They Want

Want to surprise your soon-to-be fiance with an engagement ring? Learn how to shop in secret with The Wedding Ring Shop in Honolulu, Hawaii.

Surprising a future fiance with an engagement ring is romantic and unforgettable. Not only are you offering a lifetime commitment, but you’re also presenting a gorgeous engagement ring. Everyone has different tastes, however. Some people love the feminine boldness of a rose gold ring with diamond accents, while others favor an elegant white gold solitaire. There are ways to figure out someone’s tastes, while still keeping the surprise. Our team at The Wedding Ring Shop has put together a guide towards finding the engagement ring of their dreams.

Finding Their Ring Size

The first thing to do is get their ring size. It would be extremely uncomfortable to propose with a ring that does not fit on their finger. Having a too tight ring means it can’t be worn, and if it’s too large and the ring slips off from being too loose, the ring could be at risk of being lost. So it is crucial to get the size correct.

Hopefully, by this point, you have talked about marriage. If so, you can simply ask them their ring size. You can also reserve an appointment with a professional, which is a great way to be 100 percent sure about correct sizing. Shopping together or getting a finger sized together is very common with couples of all ages. And remember, if you want to keep some elements a surprise, you can always purchase the ring later as a surprise, or plan the proposal as a surprise.

If, however, you don’t want anyone to know you’re shopping for an engagement ring, you could find a few ways to find their ring size. One way involves “social engineering,” wherein you trick them to measure their finger. You could claim it was for a fashion ring, a game, or something more devious. Another way is by wrapping a bit of yarn around their finger while they are asleep, marking where the ends meet, and re-measuring that with a tape measure.

Discover Their Style

Now that you have the ring size, it’s time to determine their aesthetic preferences for engagement ring style. Designers make a wide variety of engagement rings to cater to just as many tastes. Still, you can narrow it down by categories. The best way is to ask. People give jewelry all the time, so it’s not out of the ordinary to ask about one’s jewelry preferences.

You can also reserve an appointment with a professional, so that you can see and expereince all the best options together. Shopping together as a couple or with friends is very common, so that you can discuss and enjoy all the different ring style options together. And remember, if you want to keep some elements a surprise, you can always purchase the ring later as a surprise, or plan the proposal as a surprise.

Alternatively, you could check their Pinterest boards or look at their current jewelry collection and take some notes.

Here's what you need to figure out.

  • Favorite precious metal: White, rose, or yellow gold?
  • Style: Floral, modern, or classic?
  • Gemstone: Preferred cut, shape, size, and source?
  • Balance: Minimalist, maximalist, or something in between?

Purchasing the Piece

With all of this in mind, you can feel confident coming into a jewelry store. Whether you have a clear idea of what engagement ring you want, or are still unclear, we recommend reserving an appointment with a professional. They can show you all of the options available with your soon-to-be spouse’s preferences in mind, as well as discuss your budget and any financing options.

To guarantee that you get it right, consider shopping together with your intended, or bringing along your future fiance’s good friend or close family member. They will be great for bouncing ideas off of and may point out what you might have missed.

Find their Favorite Engagement Ring at The Wedding Ring Shop

For Hawaii’s Most Beautiful Diamonds, head to The Wedding Ring Shop. We guarantee that you will find your soon-to-be spouse’s dream engagement ring in our Honolulu jewelry store. Our top-tier selection of engagement ring designers and wedding band brands is truly unique.

We only employ the most knowledgeable and personable gemologists and goldsmiths in Hawaii to make sure that our customers find their future fiance’s most fantastic piece. Email us today at WRS@WeddingRingShop.com to learn more about everything we can do to help.

At The Wedding Ring Shop, you can experience the best selection of designs and diamonds for a stress-free shopping experience.

From our access to the best designers and diamonds, we cultivate the best relationships so we can offer you the best possible selection, service and prices.

Come visit our Trusted Diamond Advisors to start your personalized jewelry story. We're honored to be Hawaii's premier local family-owned trusted jeweler. We help you celebrate all of life's moments with Hawaii's Most Beautiful Diamonds.


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